Good grief, is she seriously going to do another post on weight? Its Christmas isn't it? Can't she just let me eat my fudge and leave my perceptions a.l.o.n.e. until at least the new year?
NO
Because I was running today and had a series of thoughts that I think skinny people need to know about fat people.
Like it or not, here they are:
When you see an overweight person it sort of 'upsets' you right? Why? Why exactly does it give you the same feeling, as say, seeing a homeless person?
Is it because you think that person is lazy, or unmotivated, or over indulgent, or lousy?
No?
Let me explain why you get that feeling.
It is because you are literally seeing PAIN. Every ounce on the outside of their body is a visible version of terrible pain. The kind of pain that would kill you if on the inside so it manifests itself on the outside of the body instead of the soul.
It is so much pain that the body does not have the capacity to hold it, so instead it 'carries' it around.
OUTSIDE
The next time you see someone who is fighting with their weight. I want you to think of this post. I want you to know the reason you feel unsettled and upset when you see it.
It is because it is so much pain that they lost the ability to hide it like the rest of us. Its more than you could take, or they could take or anyone could take. So it is visible to you.
Know that next time and judge wisely. Act kindly. Behave as if you know what I just told you.
Because its true.
I agree wholeheartedly. I think you can easily gain 30 or 40 lbs over time due to large portions or lack of exercise, but when people are over 100 lbs overweight I think there is an injury in their brain or thinking or something that has caused overeating to be a better outlet than the alternative. It's hard to explain, but I think we are looking at a wound, not a slob or a lazy person.
ReplyDeleteSo beautifully said Debi. I completely agree with you. I was just talking with my mom about this the other day (she didn't agree with me:).
ReplyDeleteLove you,
Kristi